Kashmir Terrorist Attack : Pulwama

14 feb 2019 ,Indians were left drastically shocked and numb by 44 soldiers martryed as a result of terrorist attack by Adil Ahmad who drove into a bus full of army men with a Scorpio containing 350kg of explosives, yes, on purpose. It was not a “mistake “.He was not an “innocent” peaceful. He was not a misguided youth.

Jaish-e-mohammed an islamic extremist terrorist organization,claimed this massacre.

Apart from all the rage, pain and sadness, this incident also started a debate over whether this has something to do with religion. As seen in video message by Adil, he claimed to have done it as ‘jehad’ similar to past attacks. So why should not we accept that TERRORISM HAS A RELIGION?

No, I don’t say all people from religion of peace are terrorists. But if you dare not take a stand against those who are, if you ask for mercy for them, how and why rest of the world should believe you as follower or religion of ‘peace ‘? We want to believe you but our trust is shaken when we see you celebrating the death of our soldiers. Our belief shatters when we see mercy petitions for terrorists. When we see that followers of this particular religion has problems with every other religion and has always indulged in war with most nations, we cannot believe that you are peaceful.

Politicians are doing their usual crap. It’s high time now that second largest defence in world now turn the ‘victim card’ of these politicians,militants,separatists and terrorists and self declared intellectuals and liberals and hypocrite bollywood actors into REALITY.

Also, some pseudointellectuals are tweeting about ‘asking’ for peace.

Well, in any nation, any soldier never dies for war. They always sacrifice themselves in hope of peace. But, peace is not something that can be begged for. It has to be attained.

I too have lost some close friends in war. One of my friends narrowly escaped today’s attack and according to him,” there’s no peace without blood. And we will avenge it because sometimes surgery is essential when it comes to survival, no matter if it spills blood”.

So, when the nation is crying over brutal massacre of our soldiers, talking about peace while sitting comfortably in your sofas is not only ironically illusional but also utter nonsense in same way declaring war on internet is.

“don’t teach about peace to those because of whom you get to sleep peacefully in your homes”

I want rightful justice and actions. Just like all the INDIANS.

Also, people who are celebrating the deaths, in Kashmir and in Pakistan, have some shame.

My deepest condolences to the families of martyers. The nation is forever in debt of the sacrifices you have made.

#Pulwama #KashmirTerrorAttacks

Depression in adolescents

A lot is written about depression in past few years and still suicide and crime rates are increasing devastatingly in adolescents and young adults which clearly implies that very less attention is being paid to what has already been written. in this blog, I am not going to ask parents or teachers to be understanding or pay attention and to children. Instead, I am going to talk to the group which is suffering from this or most prone to this silent killer, depression.

Dear kids,

You have been dealing through a lot of stuff including academics, extra curricular, family dramas, peer pressure and blooming romances. From a bunch of advice to no one taking your opinions seriously, you are constantly under pressure and pissed off at all kinds of the lectures which you can’t avoid.

Hmm. So what different I have to offer? Maybe nothing. Maybe you have heard it all before. But still it won’t do any damage to go through this article except for a few minutes.

Competition is the word that actually is the basis of stress and depression. Competition with siblings, with friends and most important with cousins. In some cases, even parents. (when I was your age…). Competition in studies (obviously), extra curricular, looks, other activities, popularity, love relationships and what not.

Comparisons make the pressure even worse. It is not possible to avoid comparison but it is possible to avoid undue stress.. So, here are a few things that I would like to say here, that we usually say during counselling sessions.

It feels great to score good and academic excellence is important, but still not worth giving up on life. Yes, you have heard it before and it is absolutely true. Even if what you planned is completely ruined, it’s okay. Just don’t give up. Think once that after 5-7 years, will the marks that you score in school be important enough that you are evaluating life lesser than this.
It is wonderful to have perfect body, hair, skin and style but it’s not abnormal or bad to not have it all. If you can, work to achieve that, but again, it’s okay to not succeed. It’s okay if you don’t get those perfect curves, you are too skinny or fat, as long as you feel healthy, it’s all good.
Family problems, relatives’ issues, taunts and comparisons will never end, stop paying over attention to it. It’s okay to be self centered if the environment is always negative.
There is an elevated desire to have an emotional support , to explore the relationship phase. It’s alright if you don’t feel the same way or if you are not getting back similar response from the person you put your feelings in. Having a heart break and crying about it is okay but keeping your life completely centered on it is not.
We tend to lose friends and people in this age and it’s okay. It’s hurtful and sometimes stressful to lose people you trusted and cared for a lot but it is a part of life. Moving on is difficult but not impossible.

Most important thing to learn and accept is don’t let all the bad happening to you, whatever kind of people you meet, effect you to extent of you losing yourself.

Don’t let the situations or people control you and make your approach negative. Just because people were mean to you or shit happened in past, there’s always some light.

Always remember, it’s okay to be selfish sometimes if being generous is causing you a lot of unhappiness and discomfort.

It’s never okay to lose your self respect to get ANYONE’S attention, care and love. It’s never okay to lose yourself to get anyone’s approval of who you are. No one’s opinion or judgement should lower your sense of self worth.

After all this, it’s alright to lose control, to feel a little competitive or jealous, to break down once in a while, cry and vent anger and stress out. Tears are not a sign of weakness irrespective of gender. (Boys don’t cry ,is utter nonsense).

Communication is always the key. If you are feeling low or disturbed, talk it out. Talk it out before it grows beyond your control. That’s what family and friends are for.

If you don’t have anyone you can talk to, start keeping diary or journal.

If you see someone going through difficult phase, communicate. If you can’t help them , let guardians or counselors know. Because as humans, we share and we care.

And if you still have no one, this portal is always open. I will listen. I will care. (without judgement) 😉

Love.

Rapes in India

We all say that India must not be known as ‘Rape Capital’ because most Indians are not such. But then we see statistics and realize that MAJORITY IS ALWAYS IRRELEVANT.

Criminals include people from age group 13-70 on average. So is it only about upbringing? I guess not.

We have some laws and we do candle marches ,we start campaigns, everyone is so sensitive and right but still the rate is alarming. Why?

Minors are getting raped brutally. Why? Sex appeal or revealing clothes?

A 97 year old woman was raped. Curvy figure or slutty behavior?

Young boys are getting raped. Because of porn?

Getting raped/molested by relatives and known people. But home is safest place na?

Why do we always look out for an excuse? Why is it so difficult to accept that rape is all about mentality and uncontrolled urges ? Why the concept of ‘CONSENT’ is not as common and understood as it should be? Why do we always try to find one reason to somehow blame the victim if she’s a little older than 16?

So what are Possible solutions? Allowing one gender to roam outside at a time or designing guaranteed anti-rape dresscode for girls? Or legalizing prostitution?

we accept that there’s no excuse to rape and we demand immediate justice irrespective of any other drama?! And stop defending if someone dear to us is guilty.

Teaching little ones about good and bad touch. Making trustworthy & warm relation with kids so they don’t keep suffering in silence.

And what else we can do is to make sure that the next generation, the young kids now, learn that CONSENT IS IMPORTANT . NO MATTER WHAT GENDER, RELIGION, CASTE OR NATIONALITY ANYONE BELONGS TO.

Because rapes are only about mentality.

#rapes #changeTheMentality #wordpressblog